It’s always the day I don’t care.
The kind of day where I overslept, barely made it out of bed and threw on the nearest sweatshirt. I’m not talking to anyone outside of my husband and family, fully prepared to hide from the world (as per usual).
And somehow — on that day — my hair decides to show up like it’s auditioning for a shampoo commercial.
Soft waves. The right amount of volume. It’s a little frizzy but still charming in its own way. It’s not anything I could’ve planned, and it’s certainly not something I could do by myself.
Of course, it’s when I don’t intend for people to notice it.
Meanwhile, when I have an actual event to go to like a wedding, a job interview or a girls night out, I pull out my curling iron or hair straightener like I’m prepping for a fierce battle. I watch tutorials. I section, spray and pray for the best. Still, my hair responds like a teenager after you told them to do something they didn’t want to. It’s limp in some places, frizzy in others and just… not right.
There’s something truly ironic about it. The more effort I put into doing my hair, the less it cooperates. Still, the moment I stop trying to make an impression, suddenly my hair turns into the version of itself I’m always hoping I can achieve.
It makes me laugh because we’re all out here chasing that “effortless” look like it’s something you can buy. The actual secret? It really is no effort. It’s not when we’re trying too hard to look like it was effortless without actually taking zero effort, and it’s not this impressive feat we can achieve on a whim.
Lately, I’ve stopped saving my good hair days for anyone else. If it looks amazing on a random Wednesday, that’s cool. If it falls flat on date night? I let it go. (My husband swears I look beautiful regardless.)
Sure, I’ll probably still curl my hair for the party I didn’t actually want to go to but said I would anyway, but I’m learning to love the way it looks when I’m not trying so hard.
Because apparently, my hair’s love language is “low expectations.”
And honestly? I kind of respect that.
